Diagnosis: Stage Fright

Matt O'NeillThis will be a quick post just to update all of you on why my posts have been more sporadic in recent weeks.  To start, work has picked up as of late and has taken much of my time.  Unfortunately unless something comes from my public displays of writing, hosting and entertainment – my current job takes top priority.

With that being said…

The show is doing great, I’m proud to say that it was picked up for a second season.  We are now accepting audition requests, recordings, and tapes.  You can send them all to the producer Josh Schonewolf by e-mailing him here.

I’ve learned since I’ve started hosting Songbird: The Search for Philly’s Best Singer, that I really enjoy being on stage.  I also really enjoy the hosting, and entertaining privileges that come with being the face of the show.  I’ve also learned that I will never lose my sense of stage fright.  Prior to every show, I’ve always felt the anxiousness that comes from being put on under the spotlight.  And every show it never goes away.  Stage fright is natural, and as one of the only species to actually present, we have a natural defenses against being center stage as we all are concerned about reputation.  Regardless of what reputation you want to uphold, going onstage impacts all of us to some degree.

I started this blog to shed light on myself and what I do every day.  I hope that my stories help and inspire through the crazy moments I get placed in.  So with this post I want to tell you – you can do anything.  If you told me a year ago I would be hosting one of the hottest shows in Philadelphia, I would have laughed at you.  I never thought it would have been possible.  And you can to.  There are so many times, I see people write on social sites, comment or pictures, or make generic comments about how they aren’t good enough, aren’t talented enough, or aren’t attractive enough to reach their dreams.  I’m hear to tell you that comments like those, are the only one’s holding you back.  I never thought of myself as a writer (and still don’t) and I never thought of myself as a “personality.” But here I am!

So here are three quick tips I follow to get me where I needed to go.  And I hope if you follow these tips, you too, will be able to achieve greatness.

  1. Don’t be negative. I’ve had articles, shows, and interviews that I didn’t think were my best, but I never quit because of them.  One of my biggest turn offs is when a person puts themselves down.  If you go into the situation thinking you’re not good enough to achieve what you are trying to do, you wont.  In your head, you’ve already quit.
  2. Don’t be afraid to go for it.  I work hard each day to try and advance my career just a little further.  Whether it’s checking out what singers or stars are coming to town, speaking to influential role-models, or trying to network for new leads, I am always looking to grow my experiences.  I’m not sure where my life will lead, I’ve always wanted to be on television in one way or another, and with that, I always look for new opportunities to show off my skills.  You should too.  Don’t get stuck in a life that you did not choose.  We all have choices, use you’re to grow.  There is a great book I recommend you all check out.  It’s called The Dip by Seth Godin.  He’s one of my favorite speakers and if you’re like me when it comes to making that initial move in the right direction, hopefully he can convince you much like he did me.
  3. Work, work, work.  So many people say they are going to be rich one day, or that they are going to be famous.  But in truth very few people actually work to make themselves that way.  You need to know that there is no time like the present and each day you spend prolonging your dreams, is only one more day wasted.

I have a long way to go before I’m at the point where I’m satisfied, but I wanted to say that I’m very happy where my life is leading so far, are you?

What is a dream that you would like to achieve one day?



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9 responses to “Diagnosis: Stage Fright

  1. Well said … and thought provoking. Everything you’ve written here resonates with me (and then some). I enjoy your posts and vicariously experiencing your very different gay life (which from my side of the Atlantic seems quite exciting). Hard work does pay off, though not always in the way or ways we expected. As my father said, “Money talks … but it speaks in the accent of its holder.” Thanks for your blog!

    • Thanks for the feedback! So do you not have as much of an active gay community in Paris? Or is it just my life in general?

      • It’s just your life in general. You convey things so evocatively and with such … well, gusto … that it seems quite fine. Paris is by far a bigger city, of course, so it has those inevitable subsections, much as New York. I think I’m a pretty boring Parisian in comparison to you 😉 .

      • I highly doubt that…I want to do a video with you at some point for our blogs about the differences between your culture and mine. Do you speak English very well?

      • Well, that depends on who you ask! I’m an American, originally from New York … so my English contains those occasional, “I’m just saying ….” “Do you think?” and other metro-isms. I’ve lived in France for a long time and am bi-lingual, my one great accomplishment in life (and it’s a good one). I’d love to do a video with you at some point. Cool.

      • Then I will plan something out and get back to you on some ideas. In the meantime, message me your contact info (e-mail mostly) though the message box on my about page.

  2. Joe

    A second “Songbird” or is this some other show?

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