So I have this friend…he does porn.

So where did I leave you readers off last I talked.  That’s right, everyone was in love with me and I turned them all down.  Well now that my love life is at an all time low, with practically no interaction from either of the people I was talking to, I now realize I think I may have hurt them from indirectly leading them on.  I did in fact like the person I was talking to originally I’m just not ready to get into any sort of relationship because I’m not sure he is quite over his ex.  But on to bigger and better things.  Let’s talk about my friends!  I have mentioned them a few times through posts and why shouldn’t I they are a big part of my life.  But I recently acquired a new friend who I oddly met off of an iPhone App called Grindr.  If you are not familiar with Grindr be sure to ask a gay friend what it is, we love talking about the amazing uses of the trashiest Smartphone app available.

So this friend I recently made is a porn star.  I honestly never thought I would become friends with one.  Now he is not one of those ones that stared in Pissen Boots or anything strange like that, but he has definitely be a feature in films.  The only reason I knew that he worked in that industry was because he actually tried to sleep with me about a year ago and I turned him down.  I decided that I did not want to sleep with a porn star because lets face it, it may be a fantasy of most, but I don’t really want to catch anything.  No offence if you’re reading this Mr. Porn Star friend!  Anyway I never thought in my entire life I would befriend someone who was in this profession.  I will admit I was a little intimidated when I first met up with him as I was expecting the typical, large naked pictures on the wall, vibrating heart bed, all those things that you see in those old vintage sex films.  But I was wrong.  I will admit that I am shallow, and I do judge people…a lot.  I know I don’t have any right to but I always figured if I am the one that is honest with people on what they do and how they feel, in the long run it will only help them, just as I hope people are honest with me.  So I am telling everyone now, that I think it is very trashy, and rather low-class if you sub-come to doing porn.  More power to you for being able to get off on camera but it is definitely not my fortay.  So with that being said, does that lower others’ standards of me as a person because I hang out with him?

They say you are only as good as those you surround yourself with, so now that I have a professional “performer” in my circle of friendships, will others judge me as I have them?  I certainly always act in a fashion of assuming that I will get judged.  I like to look my best, act appropriately, and be mature when I am with others outside of my close circle of friends.  Whether this is appropriate or not I do not know, it’s just my opinion.  Others may state that the only person that matters is yourself, but I feel that if I make a good impression, and I am happy with how I have behaved, I feel better about myself.  So will this man’s profession affect what people act and say about me?  Should I let it affect me; he is a normal acting man and besides those that may see him online and those he tells, no one would know.  But of those few people who do, how big of an issue is it for you to associate with someone when you know they hang with a strange crowd?  I guess only time will tell.

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3 responses to “So I have this friend…he does porn.

  1. Brian

    I would love to have a porn star friend, I find that so interesting and have no problem with it…Now that grindr on the other hand, ew. I did that once and it made me feel like a hooker.

    • I don’t want to say I have never met people on there but, I knew going into this that it was strictly just friends. He is a really cool guy I’m just afraid that it will turn into a senario where, for example, if I were to have a bunch of hooker friends…people would think less of me because of that…at least I would.

  2. Couple of things…

    What matters is what you think of you. There will always be someone that differs from your opinion on things, so at the end of the day it is your opinion of you that should be valued.

    I have MANY friends that have been in porn. They are actually some of the most fun and free people I know. Being cast aside from a society that only needs them when they need their needs met, I have learned so much from them. They are courageous people. It takes a certain level of openness to be that vulnerable in front of the camera.

    I’ve heard people say that they are selling their bodies and to that I say, who among us has not prostituted their body, time, mind or soul for another. That retail job…that 9-5, everyone gives something for something.

    And lastly I encourage you not to judge yourself so harshly. Who would you be without those harsh judgments? Who might you be free to become? I’m not saying move away from what you value, in fact just the opposite. If you stay close to what really matters to you, you can be in any situation and still be you and nothing anyone says can take that away from you. ♥

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